Domestic Violence
Awareness

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Helping Suggestions
Myths, Facts, and Stats
Domestic Violence Effects on Children
Cycle of Domestic Violence
This section is geared toward women because most domestic violence is perpetrated against women. It is important to emphasize, however, that violence occurs to others as well, and is equally unacceptable.

 

 

Family violence is a tragic reality for people of all
backgrounds and income levels. Understanding the different aspects of violence and acknowledging that it is never acceptable is the first step in getting help.


Partner abuse can result in medical bills, lost work time, serious injury, even death. Each year in the United States, millions of people- mostly women - are abused by their partners. But violence impacts
more than the immediate victims. Many children who see their mothers get hurt develop emotional problems, grow up to be abusive, or believe themselves somehow responsible for the abuse. This makes violence a family problem.


Family violence has many forms. It ranges from verbal or emotional abuse, to acts of physical abuse such as hitting or slapping. The types of violence are:

Emotional abuse - Using comments to make someone feel bad, or lower a person's self esteem; using mind games.


Threats and intimidation - Threatening to harm children, other family members, or him/herself.


Economic abuse - Withholding money; keeping a partner from getting or keeping a job.

Sexual abuse - Inappropriate or dangerous sexual conduct.

Physical assault - Hitting, punching, choking, pulling hair, and kicking; use of weapons.

Property destruction - Breaking furniture or windows; damaging the car.


Because family violence progressively gets worse, early intervention and prevention are important. Everyone can play a part in preventing family violence. If someone you care about is a victim
of abuse, or is being abusive, and you want to offer assistance, find a safe, private place to talk honestly and openly. Share your concern
for the person and encourage the individual to speak to someone who works with victims of domestic violence or abusers.

Contact us for more information.

 

 

 Reading Suggestions:

The Gift of Fear:Survival Skills that Protect Us from Violence by G. DeBecker

Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw

You Can Be Free: An Easy-to-Read Handbook for Abused Women by Sue Davidson and Ginney NiCarthy

For further information, please link to:

You Have The Power

Women's Law Initiative

 

 

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15 Signs Someone 
Might Be Dangerous
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Do they do one or more of these things? Then it's time for you to get help or get out.

1. Wants to get involved fast: Right away he wants you to promise to only be with him. Says, "no one's ever loved me like you do."

2. Jealous: He wants to make sure you aren't with anyone else; calls all the time, or shows up without telling you he's coming.

3. Wants to control you: Wants to know who you talked to and where you were; checks mileage on your car; keeps all the money; makes you ask for his OK to go anywhere or do anything.

4. Expects you to be perfect: He expects you to know what he wants and meet his every need.

5. Cuts you off from others: Doesn't want you to see family and friends; won't let you have a phone or car; doesn't want you to work.

6. Blames others for problems: If anything goes wrong, it's always someone else's fault -- the boss, you. Everyone is out to get him.

7. Blames others for his feelings: He says, "You're hurting me by not doing what I tell you" or "You make me mad" instead of "I'm mad".

8. Gets upset easily: He gets mad about things that are just part of life.

9. Hurts animals and children: Kills or punishes animals. Wants children to do things they can't, or teases them until they cry.

10. Uses force during sex: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex; says he finds the idea of rape exciting.

11. Says things to hurt you: Always criticizes you or says cruel things; puts you down, curses, calls you ugly names.

12. Thinks women should obey men: Wants you to serve, obey and stay at home.

13. Sudden changes in mood: Switches from sweet and loving to mad in a few minutes.

14. Has hit women before: Says he hit women in the past.

15. Says he will hurt you: Says things like "Ill break your neck," then says "I didn't really mean it."

Don't wait until you get
 hurt! Get help or get out.
Contact Us 
Or Call: 
Legal Aid Society
1-800-238-1443

National Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Information provided by a federally funded program of the Department of Finance and Administration, Office of Criminal Justice

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